Why Do We Put Ourselves Down!
Last week I watched a video. It was a video from a very popular YouTuber named Kristina Kuzmic and it was about “The things we tell ourselves”. The video starts with Kristina speaking to women about the cruel things they say to them-selves. Oh my…… the horrible, mean and awful things we say to ourselves.
We Are All At Fault For This!
We are all at fault for this. We look in the mirror and say “my thighs are to fat” or we say “I am not good enough”. Maybe its “nobody cares about me” or “I’m not smart enough”. And that is just a very small sample of the millions of appalling things we claim. I’m going to open and honest with you. I have a bit of a belly, and on many previous occasions I have put myself down because of it. I have told myself, I’m not good enough or pretty enough because of it. I’m sure many of you can relate to this, so let me ask….Why do we do this?
We Wouldn’t Say It To Our Younger Selves!
The video goes on to Kristina surprising the guests with a childhood picture of themselves. She asks the guests if they could say those same cruel things to their inner child on that photograph. When faced with the challenge they could not. They could not look into the eyes of their younger version of themselves and say mean and horrible things. One women states that she “didn’t want to crush her spirit”, but yet that is what we do to ourselves on a constant basis. Why do we do this?
We Wouldn’t Say It To Our Friends!
Kristina also brings to light that, the horrible things we say to ourselves, we would never say to a friend. Honestly, not only would I not say cruel things to a friend, but I would not let anyone else say mean things to them either. We are so protective over our loved ones, over our friends and we are so hurtful to ourselves. So I ask again, Why do we do this?
We Wouldn’t Our Children to Do It To Themselves!
I have three children, two daughters and a son. I teach them to be confident and strong, to raise them selves up, raise each other up and to raise people around them up. But then there I was, putting myself down over and over again. Something that I would never ever want them to do to themselves. I picture my daughter looking in the mirror and telling herself that she is fat and that she isn’t pretty enough and it breaks my heart. I am imagining all of this and yet it hurts my soul so much that it feels real and it brings tears to my eyes. It makes me want to run to her and hug her and tell her she is absolutely perfect and to never say or think otherwise. Why do we raise our children up, but put ourselves down…..why do we do this?
Truth is, There No Good Reason!
Truth is, I don’t know why we do it. But I do know there is not a single good reason to do it. If we wouldn’t be cruel to our inner child, and we wouldn’t be hurtful to a friend and we would never want our loved ones to treat themselves so horribly, then we shouldn’t do it to ourselves. Not only is negative self-talk damaging to our self-esteem and confidence, but it can very well become a harmful self-fulfilling prophecy.
So Stop Putting Yourself Down & Start Picking Yourself Up!
So I say, lets stop putting ourselves down and start picking ourselves up! A friend once told me that sometimes she looks in the mirror and says to herself “Hello beautiful”. We had a few giggles over it, but truth be told, that’s exactly what we all need to be doing. We need to be looking in the mirror and telling our selves how great and awesome we are. How beautiful and smart we are. Yes there maybe things we want to improve on ourselves, but that doesn’t make us ugly or not good enough.
Over the past yr I have been re-evaluating myself, my thoughts and my ways. Transforming to let the Boss Chíc in me come out. Part of my transformation has been changing the way I think about myself. And now when I look in the mirror and see my belly, I say “Yes, my belly is a bit bigger than I like, but I am working on it, and at this moment I am still sexy as fu*k!”
I challenge ever single one of you to re-evaluate yourselves, your thoughts and your ways. Let your Boss Chíc come out. Transform the way you think about yourself. Ultimately, I challenge you to “Stop putting yourself down & start picking yourself up!”
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With Love,
Melissa
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What do you do to Pick Yourself Up! Leave me a comment letting me know, I would love to hear about them!
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